How to Write Wedding Vows

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On your wedding day, exchanging vows is a momentous occasion. Learn how to write wedding vows that express your true love and appreciation for your significant other.


What Are Wedding Vows?

Wedding vows are the words exchanged aloud by two people during their wedding ceremony as a promise of love and commitment. Wedding vows are intended to provide a meaningful foundation for the newlyweds' life together.

The couple expresses their love and appreciation for each other in front of their friends and family by exchanging wedding vows. On their wedding day, couples typically say their vows near the end of the ceremony before exchanging wedding rings.


3 Types of Wedding Vows

Wedding vows differ by religion and personal preference. While some couples choose romantic wedding vows, others choose funny wedding vows or a cultural exchange. The three main types of wedding vows are listed below.

1. Personal vows: Couples who opt for personal vows create their own pledges from scratch. Personal vows are nonreligious vows that include romantic statements as well as humorous anecdotes about the couple's life together. Each partner expresses what they appreciate about their partner, followed by an explanation of how they intend to cherish their partner. Because they are written by the couple, these vows are sentimental and one-of-a-kind.

2. Religious vows: Traditional nuptial vows differ by religion. Each religion has its own set of wedding vows for the ceremony. Couples who choose to marry in a formal religious setting frequently read prewritten vows provided by the officiant. Religious wedding vows include formal language and phrases like "in God's name" and "until death do us part."

3. Mixed vows: Some couples include anecdotes in their traditional wedding vows. Mixed vows are a way to make religious vows more personal. The tone of mixed vows varies, with some couples adding inside jokes for levity and others keeping the solemnity of traditional phrases.


Examples of Wedding Vows

Consider the following wedding vow examples as inspiration:

Catholic vows: "I, __, take you, __, to be my (husband/wife/spouse). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life."

Funny vows: â€œI promise to love and cherish you for the rest of our lives—even when you're having a bad hair day! You're the peanut butter to my jelly, the ice to the cream, but most of all, you're my best friend and soulmate. Today, and every day of the rest of my life, I promise to protect our love.”

Hindu vows: "Let us take the first step to provide for our household a nourishing and pure diet, avoiding those foods injurious to healthy living. . . . Let us take the sixth step for self-restraint and longevity. Finally, let us take the seventh step and be true companions and remain lifelong partners by this wedlock."

Personal vows: â€œOur love story started the first time you asked me out. That day forward I knew you were the one. You make me a better person, and for that, I promise to love and support you through every good and hard time for the rest of your life.”

Protestant vows: "In the name of God, I, ___, take you, ___, to be my (husband/wife/spouse), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow."

Quaker vows: "In the presence of God and these, our friends, I take thee to be my (wife/husband/spouse), promising with divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful (husband/wife/spouse) so long as we both shall live."

Romantic vows: â€œOur love is the most important thing in my life. Your heart is my home and your arms are my shelter. I promise to choose you for all the days of our lives.”


How to Write Wedding Vows

Writing your own wedding vows allows you to express your love for each other in front of your family and friends. Consider the following steps to avoid writer's block and to generate personal vows:

1. Go over some sample wedding vows. For ideas, look into different wedding vow templates. Reviewing sample wedding vows is a great place to start when deciding on the structure of your wedding vows. You can also look up marriage and love quotes to help you come up with ideas and themes.

2. Make a list of the qualities you admire in your partner. Make a list of everything you like and admire about your partner. Set aside five to ten minutes to jot down as many details as you can. You can mention these personality traits and sentiments in your vows later.

3. Outline your love story. Consider your time together as a couple. Consider how you and your partner have evolved since the first time you met. Small anecdotes about happy memories are common in romantic wedding vows. Make another list to brainstorm and outline memorable moments for you.

4. Decide on your promises. The promises you make constitute the majority of your vows. Be specific about how you will keep your promises when outlining them. Depending on your tone and phrasing, you can make your promises romantic, solemn, or humorous. Consider incorporating religious or cultural promises into your speech if you want to incorporate traditional elements into your marriage vows.

5. Write your vows. Begin your vows by expressing your feelings for your partner. Share an anecdote about your relationship after you've stated these characteristics. You can also discuss how much you've grown as a couple. End your wedding vows by making promises to each other and acknowledging the good and bad times you will face together in the future. You can write your vows in an official vow book to keep as a wedding keepsake, or you can simply type them out on a blank sheet of paper to read at the ceremony.

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